If you have a friend or family member who has recently had a baby, chances are you’re so excited. Most people can’t wait to go and visit, have baby cuddles and coo over the new arrival. However, postpartum is such a vulnerable time in a woman’s life, and so it’s important to remember to be gentle, provide support if needed or generally be helpful in some way.
As the saying goes, ‘everyone wants to hold the baby, but who holds the mother?’ If you want to make this early stage of motherhood that bit easier for her,
Here are just a few ways you can go about it during postpartum.
1. Bring food
With a newborn to look after, taking care of your own needs gets bumped down the priority list meaning many new parents can struggle when it comes to cooking and eating. Lots of couples end up surviving on snacks during those early weeks due to convenience, which isn’t ideal. One way you can show you care and do something thoughtful is by cooking a beautiful, homemade dinner.
Make a big casserole, lasagne, curry or something you know they’ll love and bring them over a cooked meal. Anything they have leftover they could pop into the fridge or portion out and put in the freezer ready to eat again. It can ensure they’re eating something tasty, substantial and healthy which most people will be grateful for!
If you don’t live close to your friend but would still like to treat them to food, you could send a takeaway to their house or email them a gift card for a food delivery service like Uber Eats. You could even send them a treat in the post, lots of companies offer things like letterbox cookies and brownies these days. Alternatively, search the area you’re in like ‘cake delivery Sydney’ and find a local company to send them something delicious.
2. Help with chores
As with cooking, chores and household duties can easily get neglected when your hands are tied looking after a newborn so help in this area will likely be gratefully received. You could offer to do some laundry or clean up the kitchen.
You could feed their pets or walk their dog, or offer to take their other children to school for a couple of weeks. You could spend an hour or two in the evening doing their ironing- this sort of help is much more useful than offering to hold the baby.
3. Create a recovery basket
Finally, whether your loved one had a c-section or a natural birth, their bodies will have been through a lot and so postpartum is a time of recovery. Putting together some gifts that make this process a little nicer is a wonderful thing to do- products like face masks, cozy pyjamas, hot chocolate and pampering skin products are all ideas for things to include.
There are lots of ideas for these kinds of hampers online so have a browse and choose a selection of items you think your friend would most enjoy, organise them in a basket and finish with some clear film and a big bow. The new mother will have received lots of gifts for the new baby already, so why not buy something for her?