Marriage is a union of two souls and family who make sure to be there through the thick and thins of each other. There are so many responsibilities and commitments that are expected and fulfilling them with perfection and smile on the face is really difficult. However, as a newlywed, it was all due to my Mom and her valuable teachings that helped me sail through all and that too with utmost poise and grace.

Here are a few things that should in mind of al newlyweds..

1. Be proactive

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I was the lazy daisy before marriage but my mom, on the other hand, was always on her foot and was doing something or the other. No matter how much we used to persuade her to sit with us but she always would find some work that would need her attention.

This really helped me in managing my home in a much better way and responding to the needs of the family members or kids or husband in a much smoother way.

2. Be a good host

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You should be able to entertain guests and call them over for some good food and deep conversation or just a casual potluck party. It helps you to grow as a better person and brings so much happiness and zeal at home. It’s a way of learning so many things and spending your time positively.

3. Compromising

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I have always seen my mom compromising whenever there was the need. This is the best ingredient for a happy marries life. Put your partner before you do not sympathize rather empathize and also help your partner to do so and this will surely help your relationship to grow and evolve.

My mother taught me this and putting your partner before you show your love and this helps you in the long run.

4. Cooking

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Well, one can always hire a cook or eat out or opt for the tiffin service but making good and healthy food for your family will definitely help you in relaxing and rejuvenating. The feeling of feeding your family with food that has been cooked with love is incomparable.

Rather my mother used to have the kids and also other members to help her cook an elaborate meal for the family so that we could simply bond over the food that we were cooking and also have fun. She passed on the secret family recipes and some cooking hacks that truly helps me to be a better cook and flaunt my talent.

5. No space for excuses

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My mom was always there to help us or to listen to us in spite of being super busy and this truly helped us grow as a better person and much more confident as we had a sorted childhood and the same thing I do with my kids so that they are confident and also have my guidelines for various matter.

There were enough trolls directed towards AR Rahman and his daughter Khatija. The trolls accused the composer of forcing his daughter Khatija for wearing a niqab. Academy winner AR Rahman was caught up in the controversy along with his daughter Khatija Rahman. Recently she had delivered a very heart touching speech at the 10- year celebration of the Slumdog Millionaire Oscar win.

The event was held in Dharavi and his daughter was seen wearing a niqab and this led to the beginning of trolls. The trolls claimed that Rahman was being a hypocrite for ‘pressuring’ her kid to wear the niqab. A niqab is a veil worn by some Muslim women to cover their face and hair.

#FreedomToChoose

The composers with utmost dignity slammed the trolls with a fitting photo. The photo of his three kids, Khatija, Raheema, and AR Ameen are the best answer to slam the trolls. On his Instagram handle he shared the adorable pictures of his kids, the clicks were from a photo shoot of which they were apart.

 

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Raheema ,Khatija and Ameen posing for Hello magazine 😊

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The kids were recently selected for Hello magazine’s Debutants’ Ball.  The photo has gone viral and has some 200K likes on Instagram. The kids can be seen in the best of the attire, Khatija and Ameen wore black while Raheema wore pale green floor length gown.

 

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Rahman and Khatija were all calm and composed when questioned about the niqab. He shared a few more pic of the ladies of his house with the caption #freedomtochoose.

The precious ladies of my family Khatija ,Raheema and Sairaa with NitaAmbaniji #freedomtochoose pic.twitter.com/H2DZePYOtA

— A.R.Rahman (@arrahman) February 6, 2019

Khatija also expressed her anger in the most beautiful way and commented “I’m a sane mature adult who knows to make my choices in life. Any human being has a choice to wear or do what he/she wants and that’s what I’ve been doing”.

Hence, kindly don’t make your own judgments without understanding the exact situation #freedomofchoice.

The first few months of any relationship is the honeymoon phase and the lovebirds are painting the town in red and cannot see beyond each other. However like all good things, this phase gets over and we face the realities and then an altogether new aspect or phase of the relationship grows and this is growing in love, the phase after falling in love.

Here are a few things that are deemed to happen in the life of couples after their honeymoon phase ends:

1. A couple start fighting after the honeymoon

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In the honeymoon phase the couples do not fight but after the phase, it is bound that they will fight. Two people staying together will have a disagreement and it’s healthy for the relationship.

You grow with the fights how much hurt or angry you are never sleep over a fight resolve the issue before you hit the bed and never let your arrogance or ego come in between your love.

2. Getting annoyed with each other’s habit

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During the honeymoon phase, the habits that you ignored or were okay to will now start to annoy you. Like snoring of the partner or throwing a wet towel on the bed. It is okay to get irritated but does not fight over these petty issues rather overlook them.

3. No more PDLA is required

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You are together forever so the display of those silly acts of PDLA is not required anymore. You are comfortable with each other and do not need someone to certify this. Thus holding hands in public is not required anymore.

4. You can do your own stuff

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Love is being together but however not doing the same thing together. The two of the couple can sit together in the same room and do the work they want to do without having the guilt feeling that the other person will get bored. The man can watch his match and you can simply read your novel sitting next to him.

5. Give space to each other

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After the honeymoon phase, the couple realizes that they have their own world, their own commitments and friend circles. They are together but can still hang out with their old friends and do not always need to hang out together. They grant each other the much needed ‘me’ time.

6. They do not need to be dressed up all the time

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Your man has seen you in the best of your looks and loves you but once the phase is over and gets to see your worst look that is uncombed hair look or the unshaved face and still loves you. You can chill together in pyjamas and still be the most beautiful person to each other and they know that they will be together forever.

They are rock solid together and have seen the worst of each others mood swings and have fought like cat and dog but still, they know that will be together as they are meant to be together. Their relationship will grow stronger and more beautiful with each passing day.