We are able to endure a lot for the sake of the relationship, but it is difficult to accept the behaviour of the partner, which proves that he does not respect our feelings. While at first, we close our eyes to minor offenses, over time we may have enough of recurring, unpleasant situations. Which behaviours have a particularly destructive power?
1. Telling the story of one’s ex-parents
Listening to stories about former partners is not a pleasant experience. Especially when the beloved person is reminded from time to time of the ex situation in the lead role. Such behaviour, even if it is dictated only by the desire to share one’s love experience with one’s present partner, has a destructive effect on the relationship.
When your partner treats you like a child, dictates how you should behave, how to sit, how to eat, where to put down a fork, etc. can become unbearable over time, especially when it happens to other people. Frequently paying attention to a loved one, which is initially perceived as a manifestation of care, later causes annoyance. It makes the partner, treated in this way, feel ridiculed.
3. Disappearance for a few days without notice
You meet someone, you are close to each other, when suddenly your partner does not speak for a week, for example. Unfortunately, such situations happen very often. Nowadays it is difficult to believe that someone has not found a moment to send at least a text message for a week. If such behaviour was not the result of an unfortunate accident, what’s more – it repeats itself, it will have a destructive effect on the relationship.
4. Life in the cult of a parent
It happens that the most important thing in the relationship is… The parent of the partner. Your needs are becoming obsolete. Life begins to revolve around the affairs of such a parent, and the partner is not able to set a limit for him/her. Mum or dad of your half (or both) starts to play such a dominant role in the relationship that it destroys your relationship as a result.
5. Relationship problems due to a longer affair
According to an article published in Liebesdrama , a love blog, a long affair can have a very destructive effect on the relationship. When the partner cheats, it is deeply hurtful and undermines trust. Als,o the self-confidence of the cheated partner is pulled into the cellar. Secrecy and lies are deadly for a relationship. Even if you were to forgive a fling, an affair that lasts for months cannot simply be ignored.
Avoiding telling the truth to a partner is extremely dangerous for the joint relationship. Lying, even if apparently innocent, can cause enormous problems because it reconciles the basis of the relationship – mutual trust.