This is an age-old tale that most of the time saas-bahu don’t really get along. If that hadn’t been the case, so many daily soaps’ scriptwriter would have remained unemployed. This is because of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law’s messed up relationship that Indian Television is flourishing. It seldom happens that we find a great pair of saas-bahu who share mother and daughter like relationship. Pipe dream, girls, it’s a pipe dream. The point is, it is established that these two never get along, so we gave it enough pondering and we dare to think otherwise.

Well, we think it is not meant to be like this. Every relationship has hope, so does this one. It is a matter of perspective and understating. If one understands the other’s perspective, not a relationship would get ruined ever. And this is why we have come up with

8 solutions that you should apply to your problem if you want a better relationship with your mother in law or daughter-n-law.

1. Welcome your son’s life partner, not your “Bahu”

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The Indian society is obsessed with “Gharkiaanbaanshaan” and in the same light, they see a daughter-n-law. They start seeing her as somebody who represents the whole clan and laden her with responsibilities and age-old traditions. Get your facts right, she is your son’s life partner, his soul-mate. If anything she is in your household is for him, not the whole clan.

2. Don’t steal anyone’s son

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Okay, so one of the very common allegations a daughter-n-law gets is to steal the son from his mother. The answer to this is actually a question: is it even possible? You raised a son, not a puppy who could be stolen from the front yard. Also, the mother and son’s bond is always too strong to be broken or breached.

So, it is all in the head, that if your son loves his wife, he is hypnotized by his wife and forced to hate his mom. Once you get this right, that his wife is a new and current chapter in his life and he is bound to love her, you will never face any trouble again with your Bahu.

3. Let her know that you are not a rival

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All the daughter-n-laws out there, you need to get this in your system that your Saas is your husband’s mother. She is a mother, and it might be hard for her to be sharing his son with an equally important woman as she is.

So make it easy for her, let her know that you are not her rival you are her partner and only together you can make that man happy. He doesn’t marry to replace his mother with a wife. So nobody takes anybody’s place. Chill!

4. Don’t treat her like a maid

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Most of the time Indian families, mistake a daughter-n-law to be a free maid who is bound to serve everybody in the family and this service could never be reciprocated. Again, she is here for you son, her husband. Please, get your facts right.

5. Spend time together as friends not relatives

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We found out that often relationship gets tricky and heavy when a lot of things are associated with it. So, to soothe out this soring relationship, the best thing to do is to spend quality time together like friends.

Friends love to do fun stuff together, and in friendship both are equal. You will only enjoy this relationship once the burden of being someone is off your shoulder.

6. Respect has to be mutual

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Most of the time we teach our kids to respect and obey elders. There is nothing wrong in teaching this lesson, but the only thing is, it is incomplete. We need to understand this every relationship needs respect.

Every individual deserves respect. So not just respect elders, respect younger ones, equals one equally. Respect is mutual, not only daughter-n-law is bound to give respect, she deserves to get some in return.

7. No blame game

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The most ridiculous thing that a daughter-n-law and a mother-n-law do is to blame each other. If something gets wrong do not ear it to your son and put the blame on his wife. Neither should daughter in law do it. If you got a problem face it. Talk things out, not fight things out. Again, you are not rivals.

8. Allow your son to move out

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We understand Indian culture, tradition and family values. But can we deny that the world is growing faster, kids are becoming independent, growing old and being responsible? If your son and his wife want to move out, it’s nobody’s fault. It is not a partition! It is normal, it is rather natural.

The drunken night with your girl gang is something which is priceless and immeasurable. You keep yourself free and out of all worries. During these nights you talk all about your life experiences, your ups, and downs, heartbreaks you have gone through, your sex life, pregnancy scares and lots more. The bond that you share together with your favourite bunch of gang is like the greatest support system for you.

They pretty well listen to you, understand you and try to make you relaxed when you are worried or when the things are not going well in your life. Well, this is not the end of the list that you talk with them, there are a bunch of lot more things which you talk about when you meet up with your girl gang after getting drunk.

Here are the things which girls talk about-

1. Telling their friends that they never liked their boyfriend

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Girls are pretty good at saying things straightforward. They do not hesitate while speaking about the boyfriend of their BFFs. They would keep telling their friends why they do not like their boyfriend and how they feel happy when you finally dumped them. They literally mean what they say.

2. Showing the utmost care and love to them

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Drunken nights are the nights where we become care-free and also a bit emotional when it comes to best friends. After getting two pegs down, you show your love to them and how you care for them. You tell them what they mean to you and how important they are for you.

3. You discuss your fantasies with them

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When you meet your girl gang, you have lots of things to chat upon. You discuss the weirdest thing you have done in your life. Not only this, but you also talk about your exes and all about your good or bad experiences with them.

4. You get philosophical about your life

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During those drunken nights, apart from doing shitty talks, you also talk about your life, your plans and also about the mistakes which you have committed in your life which has changed your life completely. You literally talk about all the things which have been troubling you for since long. You feel happy after you share all your worries with them.

5. You talk about all your likes and dislikes

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It’s not always about boys which you talk about with your girl gang. You also talk about the other things as well like your school teacher, relatives or any school friend who might have bullied you so much. The list of the people you hate and the talk between the girl gang has no end. They could keep talking the whole night about all the things which come to their mind without giving a thought even once.

Of course, your girl gang is the best one and you feel so proud to have it.

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Love is the best feeling ever which one can have. It is something for which we always look forward to experiencing irrespective of the kind of love or the situation. We just want to love and get loved. But not everyone is lucky enough who get to experience the true and unconditional love for which we always dream for. Throughout life, you will find yourself through varied circumstances of love where you would be experiencing one of these kinds of six loves.

You might not remember but I am pretty sure each one of you must have experienced these kinds of love when you were even not aware of what love is all about?

1. Non-Sexual Love

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This is the simplest kind of a love which you experience with your friends, family, siblings and childhood friends. In this kind of a relationship or love which has no intention to make sexual relation. It is purely a friendly relation where you set yourself free with the person you are hanging out with because you trust them. In this relation, there is no expectation and no boundaries either. Any kind of relationship begins with this kind of love.

2. Infatuation love

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Do you ever have a crush or infatuation on someone? Of course, you have! You might have gone through this kind of love when you were first infatuated to someone at first sight. Maybe in college or in the coaching, you were in. It is a beautiful experience ever if you think about them. The kind of a feeling that you get in this love feels like butterflies are jolting all over your stomach.

The saddest part is that when you feel for someone and you are not able to express your feeling with them. This kind of love could happen with your hot school teacher or actor where you just keep fantasising about them all the time.

3. One-sided love

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This is one of the saddest feelings ever when you are in truly in love with someone but the other person is not even bothered to care about you. Now, what could be more painful than having this feeling? You get nothing, just disappointment and tears when you go mad for someone completely.

4. Obsessive love

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This is a kind of love which lacks innocence. You are truly obsessed with someone you love. That person is driving you crazy. You can’t keep yourself away from thinking about them all the time. You seek for moments where you both could just get close to each other and do everything you always wanted as if nobody is watching you.

5. Unconditional love

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Not everyone gets to experience this kind of love. That true feeling of love you have for someone that makes other people feel so special and blessed. This kind of love could be seen between a husband and wife where they both just can’t imagine living apart from each other. You are really very lucky if you have someone like this who loves you unconditionally.

6. Inspirational love

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You might have met someone in your life or came across such a person who has inspired you a lot. You can’t stop thinking about that person and you aspire to be like them. This is a kind of love which is far away from any intended sexual attraction. This is the love you can have with your teacher, any famous personality or the person you like the most.