Dating is taken to the next level with the evolution of online dating applications and websites. The digital dating platform offers users the opportunity to connect with people of mutual interest and build a new relationship. There are several dating apps available in the marketplace and the users can register themselves with the dating platform and start with the dating process. People from different community and races participate in the dating app to find their pair, but we cannot say that everybody in the forum is hooked up with a partner because though there are no restrictions made by the dating app.
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However, some of the users in the platform are neglected by the others because of community or racism factors.
Exclusive chat room
Some people find it hard to hook up with others in real life and in virtual life, and there are many reasons behind it. Generally, in a dating platform, some people reject others based on their race and some are rejected because of being a geek or a nerd. The most affected set of people is the Black nerds, and as an initiative to address their issue- an exclusive forum was created and it is called the Blerd Dating. This platform will help them in talking about the trouble they face in society, relationships, sex, dating, and love.
This is a web extravaganza that happens weekly and is one of the world’s first chat mash-up party or Twitter story and was created by Leesa Dean. It is a discussion platform with some guests, celebrities, blerds, and others participating and discussing the issues faced by the people in the society. Users cannot expect dating advice because it is a discussion platform.
Blerd is a culture that has an urban point of view, which comprises of the black nerds, but recently they have included the LGBTQ, women and other people of a different color. Leesa Dean the creator of the Blerd dating platform is not new to the platform, she is the founder of the most acclaimed Chilltown TV, the animated web series and she partnered with Nicole Franklin, the filmmaker of the Title VII and entertainment industry veteran and started this new platform.
The blerd dating different from another dating, where it is a kind of mind-melding and they talk about many things. And when blerd partners with a blerd, their relationship becomes much stronger because they have mutual things they can work together.
The twitter party
The users those who wish to participate in the chat can join the party by simply typing #BlerdDating in the Twitter search bar and they can start accessing if the users are accessing on their mobile phone- they must click on the ‘show all tweet’ option. Each time when the user wishes to participate or comment in the chat, they have to type hashtag BlerdDating (#BlerdDating) in every tweet, so that the comment can be viewed on the chat. The specialty of this platform is that even those who are not blerd can also participate in the discussion.
The chat consists of six regular hosts Jamie Broadnax, Rain Pryor, Rodney Perry, and Karyn Parsons, and Nicole and Leesa switch each week, and most of the weeks are filled with Guest hosts. The guest hosts can be storytellers, internet personalities, celebrities or friends with exciting dating stories and to make it interesting, the special guests from the chat are interviewed.
The chat takes place every week and the topic that is discussed on the chat will be related to the dating and every week before each episode, the confessions related to the topic is conveyed. The lines in the message are numbered so that it will be easy for the listeners to follow the story. At the end of the story, the Q&A session begins where the interactions and comments can be shared.
The entire session will not be narrative, instead, they will be interesting as if a gang of friends sat for a drink and shared their dating experience. After the end of the chat session, those who are interested can continue the chat in the FaceBook page, where there is a group formed for the blerd and one of the hosts, Lisa Durden joins the FB chat.
The discussion can continue up to late at night. In the month of February, there are four episodes included in different themes, like the Elephant in the room, Nee Year’s Eve dating resolution, dating somebody who’s married and I stood up. With the help of this platform, the others will also get to know more about the Blerds and they might even get attracted to such people.
If you are blerd and dating- note the key points
- Blerds dating with a non-blerds person is quite different from the normal dating pair, there are many things that they are aware of and there is much to talk, which might not be possible for some people to manage. Blerds are introverted, intelligent, digitally influenced people with creative thinking and high memory power. The blerds have their own fantasy world where they expect a person to have distinct qualities and have to be flawless, but in the real-life scenario, people are born with flaws. Not all men are the ideal type with the tall, handsome and dark physique. So when blerds get the opportunity to date a partner, they have to branch out to their thoughts because we are born to be real and not perfect.
- Since they expect perfection, blerds tend to date the same type of partners and them even when they are aware of the fact that they are not a suitable match. And narrowing the option will not help them in finding a life partner, as they know that- in the end, we regret the chances we didn’t take in life. The new partner will not be similar to the ex-partner and that is the reason for them to become exes.
- Blerds follow the traditional dating rules and they hesitate to take the first step, and they are introvert so they will feel uncomfortable to initiate a conversation. One cannot expect a change without even taking the first step, so the blerds should come out of their comfort zone to get to know more about others. When they take the first move and if the relationship failed, there is nothing to worry because they were able to come out of their shell.
- One of the advantages of the online dating platform for the blerds is that they are comfortable in this place. Creating impressive dating profile is a cakewalk for the blerds because they are creative in person, but the impression they create in the dating platform might not be the best one. They have to take more care while creating a user name for the profile- an impressive user name will attract the daters to take some time in reading the profile, similarly, they have to add a different set of photos with full body and close up shots to impress users to view the profile.
- It is easy and interesting for the blerds to write impressive autobiographies, but they cannot do the same thing while writing the dating profile. The profiles must contain only important details that a person expects in a dating profile and they can include interesting details in the profile that can help in initiating conversation.
Dating is not something which is impossible, just by altering some changes in the way a blerd approaches dating can provide impressive results in their love life.