Another Valentine’s Day has passed us by, which means there’s a small population of people still feeling the aftershocks of a “love” holiday gone wrong. There are plenty of things that can go wrong on Valentine’s Day – expecting something that never comes, getting into arguments, or feeling down on yourself for not having anyone to share the occasion with. Whatever the reason, there are a few things you can do to lessen the sting of a non-existent Valentine’s Day.
So, let’s get into it and talk about five ways you can deal with these post-Valentine’s Day blues.
1. Trim the Fat
When you’re sitting there staring at your phone, realizing how dry it is on Valentine’s Day, why not trim the fat?
By “trim the fat,” we mean get rid of all the meaningless contacts in your phone. You know those on and off again people you’ve been talking to for a while?
If you’re happy with this type of arrangement, then, by all means, keep them available. However, if you want more from certain people and they’re simply not reciprocating the vibes you’re sending out, it’s time to block and delete.Sure, it may seem extreme, but some of us need this extra support barrier to stay strong. When it comes down to it, people treat you the way you allow them to, so if it does not measure up to your expectations, it may very well be time to go.
2. Sing Your Heart Out
Music pulls all kinds of emotions from us. When we’re sad, somehow it helps to sing some of your favorite love songs, even if you shed a tear or two. After you get all the emotional stuff out of the way, put on something empowering that makes you feel like the world is your oyster – because it is!
On a scientific note, music creates dopamine in the brain.
Dopamine, also known as the “feel-good” chemical that produces happy feelings throughout the body. No matter what you choose to sing, have fun with it and look at it as a therapeutic exercise.
3. Hit Up Your Friends
When you’re feeling the post-V-day blues, you’ve got to hit up your friend circle. Your friends are always there, happy to console you on the most challenging days. Grab a bottle of wine (or something stronger depending on the situation), have some good snacks lined up and have a Netflix night full of romantic comedies, thrillers, or whatever else calls out to you.
Some friend circles like to celebrate “Galentine’s Day.” It’s similar to a Friendsgiving – with the idea of friends showing each other love and support over the holiday. This proves to be helpful to most since loneliness taunts many people over the holidays. Valentine’s Day isn’t a major holiday, but it still leaves some people with negative emotions and feelings.
4. Self-Care for the Win
If you’d rather take some time for inward reflection, self-care is one of the best ways to go about it. Start with a hot, botanical-infused bath. Use it to do some deep breathing exercises while stating some ego-boosting affirmations. Additionally, there are some nice CBD-infused bath products if you want to increase this scenario’s calming effect.
When you get out of the tub, treat yourself to an A1 groom – hair, nails, face mask – the whole shi-bang. Some people like to get a mini-makeover to get that boost in self-confidence, but it’s up to you and how you choose to handle your personal situation.
But we will say this when you look good; you can’t help but feel good about yourself.
So you had a bad Valentine’s Day – it’s no reason to write the holiday off for life. In life, you’ll have good days, bad days, and tons of mediocre days, but how you handle the bad days truly matter. Don’t drown yourself in a pool of chocolate candy sorrow.
Take some time to reflect on the situation and move on. We’ve laid out five simple things you can do to get over the post-Valentine’s Days blues in little to no time. Which one are you going to use first?
Also read: What is Anticipatory Grief? How is it Different from Conventional Grief?